Gamer4Christ Member Posts: 551 From: Kokomo, Indiana, USA Registered: 07-19-2005 |
Man, I have never felt so down as I do now. Has anyone else had their father treat them like his little brother, or his lowly servant? I am probably being petty, and stupid. But my little sister is the favorite in the family, and everyone thinks I am always wrong, and no one takes me seriously... The only person who does treat me like I am special, and takes me seriously is DedicatedRider... all I ask is that my family treat me like family instead of like an outsider... I know I am different then them all, but still... Another thing is that I do not get to see DedicatedRider as much as I would like, nor as much as I think I should. This is becase of ridiculously early curfues, and extrememly weird restrictions. We only get two conversations a day on the phone each for fifteen minutes... and two maybe three conversation on the computer... and then we get to see each other for, on average, about 3 hours in person. Unless we go to church, then it is like five hours a week. The only time we see each other are times we have something to do. Like Church, 4-H meetings, working on projects, meetings for the homeschool group we belong to... I just wish we could see each other for no reason at all, and talk to each other as long as we would like, or at least longer then what we have. Right now we talk to/see see each other for, on average, about 8 hours a week out of 168 hours (Sorry if that is wrong) a week. Maybe I am being ungrateful of the time we got, but I am around people who see the people they love everyday for endless hours a day.... Please someone help somehow... may it be prayer, setting me straight, or just... I do not know... Brother in Christ, ------------------ "A clever warrior "Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly." |
buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
Have you gone to anyone in your family about this (namely your parents). I can relate (sorta) to the problem with your younger sister. No offense or anything, but sometimes (most of the time actually) the favorites thing is often fictional, in our imagination. Or, it could be that your parents are unwittingly doing it. I can relate to your not being able to see DedicatedRider, but only because I don't see people other than at school. I don't relate to not being able to talk to people online (im the other extreme LOL!!) tho... I hope you can resolve this before you get really upset with your family... ------------------ |
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Lava Member Posts: 1905 From: Registered: 01-26-2005 |
Both of your situations are in my prayers Gamer4Christ  ------------------ |
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Gamer4Christ Member Posts: 551 From: Kokomo, Indiana, USA Registered: 07-19-2005 |
Well see my parents hate when I tell them something is wrong with how they do something... at least my dad is. But the favorites thing is definitely not in my mind only... they treat me differently, but I cannot go to them about it, I should, but I can't. FYI in case you did not know, DedicatedRider is the girl I am courting. I hope things get resolved soon too, but I do feel better about it, I talked to DR, and she had some very comforting words, and prayers. Thanks Lava, it is VERY much appreciated! =) ------------------ "A clever warrior "Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly." |
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Gamer4Christ Member Posts: 551 From: Kokomo, Indiana, USA Registered: 07-19-2005 |
Sorry for double posting... but wanted to see something..... ------------------ |
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buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
Yah I'm praying for ya too... don't i get any thanks? Lol kidding... i wasn't sure if DR was a gfriend or a friend.. that's cool...but that stinks even more about the crazy strict limits... My parents have some strict limits but not like that... That's too bad about your parents.. I think that you should be able to go to them... You could try doing it a nice way and asking them to think about what you say and listen carefully... Never know... If they truly love you they will listen... I'm praying for you... That's good that you feel better about it.. Ask for wisdom from the Lord also.. Never fails to help me out... Good Luck!! BTW unrelated but did you make that banner? Sorry just wondering!! [This message has been edited by buddboy (edited December 21, 2005).] |
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Gamer4Christ Member Posts: 551 From: Kokomo, Indiana, USA Registered: 07-19-2005 |
LOL< gee... I am sorry. Thank you buddboy, lol. Yeah, well it makes it hard sometimes, especially seeing people around me that get to spend all this time with their 'girlfriends' (COMPLETELY DIFFERENT SITUATION), but no matter how much I complain about the limits she is worth the wait, and thr troubles. You would think I should be able to go to them... I probably can go to my mom, but we will see. Yeah, I have already asked the Lord for help, but thanks for suggesting it. Thanks again. LOL, actually I got it off of the RPGMaker XP forums http://www.pickle-green.com/egraphics/main.php?id=eggs ------------------ |
crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
well, that is the trade-off. by calling it courting, u let your parents have alot of control. abscense makes the heart grow fonder, or is it....out of sight out of mind.  i have had quite a few long convos with you about the ups and downs of "courting" and the crazy limitations are one of the downs that perhaps u didnt forsee. If u do decide to do something drastic, well then good luck. ------------------ |
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buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
That's cool... and funny... BTW, you live in Tipton? Where is that? I live in southern Indiana, that would be so cool to meet someone from here. I'm looking up Tipton in a map... If I don't find it (or u think I won't cuz it's a small town or wutever) where is it? ------------------ |
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buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
 Well, I guess we probably won't be seeing each other anytime soon... Tipton is north of Indianapolis... So that's not a very probable thing... Unless... there's a christian concert in Louisville, KY... You probably weren't planning on going...there's the slight chance you were planning to go... (don't worry i'm not asking you to go to a concert so I can meet you!!)... Ah, well... that would still be cool to meet someone on here...------------------ |
Valkyri Member Posts: 205 From: Registered: 08-13-2005 |
g4c and dr, I will pray for yall, god bless! In Christ, Valkyri P.S. I have to honest and say that in my experience chances are yall are safer courting. As they say better safer than sorry. Hope that helps. Hopefully im not being confusing. ------------------ |
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Gamer4Christ Member Posts: 551 From: Kokomo, Indiana, USA Registered: 07-19-2005 |
Crazyishone: Now I never said I did not know about the restrictions of courting. I have known that there are many in courting. But most courtships you are allowed to spend time with the other person without reason, still in a family environment, and you are allowed to talk to the other person more then a half hour a day. And it is more then calling it courting, lol, courting is WAY different then dating, lol. but that is not the purpose of this topic, lol. I do not plan on doing anything crazy. Buddboy: LOL, yeah that would be awesome to meet someone from here. Your avatar says Arcadia Florida, not Indiana, what's up with that? Yeah, I try not to go to concerts, because I am not a big fan of music, especially loud music. See I have super sensitive ears. Last friday I went to a teen meeting and I had a hard time focusing on the people closest to me, because I could hear EVERY conversation going on. So if you could imagine what loud music can do to me, lol. Valkyri: Thank you for prayers! I love the support and encouragement that this community gives to its members. Yes, I believe you are correct that we are better off courting, lol, out of personal experiences I would have to agree, lol. Yes, I use that saying alot, lol. It certainly did help, and thanks again! =D ------------------ |
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crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
well, good luck with all the problems anyway. i hope it all works out. ------------------ |
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buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
yah g4c, we just moved from arcadia. that would be cool to meet somebody from here. u know what would be cool? have a meeting sorta thing... u know, bennythebear lives in KY... but i don't know exactly where... ------------------ |
