bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i know a lot of what the bible says about marriage, not everything i'm sure. i know it's marry or burn if you can't contain. i reckon i'm writing this because i'm trying to keep myself busy right now. i really believe i should get married, i just don't know though. 'cause i mean i have this thought that maybe i can contain, that is to even keep from lusting after women in my heart, i just give in before deliverance get's here. like maybe if i just pray more, fast, preach everyday, witness more, and study the bible 4 hours a day i could overcome, ya know? but in all reality i'm no apostle, so i'll prob'ly end up married. i'm just wondering if i'm able to do the whole relationship thing. mainly sharing my life with someone. i've had years to fine tune my ability to remain in solitude. don't get me wrong, i have friends, i do live a normal life, i'm just the single guy, and i don't know if i can funtion right in a relationship. i reckon what i expect out of a relationship, and what most people expect are different. i'm to logical for my own good i suppose, expecting the love and relationship between man and woman to make sense. anywho, if you read this you just wasted more of your life, should've caught a knap  ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
people gotta get married ya know. kids... next generation would be nice. besides, the love between married couples is symbolic of God's love, and can really lead to some understanding. thing about marriage is that it is inefficient. that's the reason why Paul said what he did. he can minister as well when your married. but nothing is wrong with marriage. besides, I don't think you can kill it. it's not like it is a sinful desire. if it's God's will for you to get married, don't worry about it. ------------------ |
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d000hg Member Posts: 144 From: Durham, UK Registered: 07-27-2004 |
Well it's not a must for there to be a next generation...! Anyway, I was a real solitary nerd until I came to university at 18 - spent all my time at home reading and coding. I still like having my own time but I've found no real problems having a committed relationship to my girlfriend (we plan to marry) that couldn't be adjusted to for our mutual benefit. If you can't be solitary anough with a particular lady then maybe she's not the right one! |
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bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i know i can't kill it arch, i was being sarcastic about all that stuff. i guess you could say i'm trying to accept the fact that i have to be inefficient  .i wouldn't consider myself a nerd, more of a really backwards cool guy...sounds good right? ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia |
goop2 Member Posts: 1059 From: Registered: 06-30-2004 |
zzzzzzzzzzzzz......zzzzzzzzzzz..... snongk! snongk! Huh? what?? oh... ya uh huh whatever  ------------------ "Democrats stink" |
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Flamers23 Member Posts: 30 From: gilmanton N.H U.S.A Registered: 11-16-2004 |
If u wanna get married try breaking ur leg thats wut my bro did he was at a camp think he paid people a quarter to be his friend and sign his cast and then he married one of them about a year later lol sounds like a plan dont it? ------------------ |
Simon_Templar Member Posts: 330 From: Eau Claire, WI USA Registered: 10-25-2004 |
Many people think, because of what Paul said, that its better or more holy not to marry. This isn't the case. Its like Arch said, its just more inefficient because you have additional responsabilites. Jesus made it clear, I think, that people who are not going to marry, have to be specially called to that. That is, its something specially given to them by God. For most people the truth is "he who finds a wife, finds a good thing". Even some of the apostles were married. Also, the strictest interpetation of paul's guildines for pastors indicates that pastors must be married, because their family life is vital to how they lead the church. ------------------ |
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goop2 Member Posts: 1059 From: Registered: 06-30-2004 |
He didnt have a broken leg and they werent signing a cast. He HURT his arm AFTER that and had a sling. They were signing an envelope. ------------------ I took the road less traveled and now WHERE THE HELL AM I????? |
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bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i'm definately not the eunich(or however it's spelled) type. it's just so hard for me to accept that God don't require a whole lot out of me, right now anyway. i think sometimes my self expectations and reality aren't exactly matching up with each other. i always lean toward the extremes, the whole "all or none" attitude. one night when i was talking(more like crying) to God i realized i was doing the best i could, that was humbling, very, very humbling. ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia www.persecution.com - Voice of the Martyrs |