Max Member Posts: 523 From: IA Registered: 09-19-2004 |
Hey, I have a question that has many times been asked, I just thought I would propose it to pick your brains. Should I as a christian male be activly seeking a mate, or should I just wait for God to send me someone or something like that. I know about the equally yolked thing. I just don't know if I should be out there looking for someone... Any help would be MUCH appreciated! God Bless, Max ------------------ |
en972 Member Posts: 562 From: NOT TELLING! Registered: 08-27-2004 |
Thats a hard one...since I havn't found anyone either...I'm ganna ask the same question. Sorry I was no help. ------------------ |
Mack Administrator Posts: 2779 From: Registered: 01-20-2001 |
quote: Yes / No. Paul recommends that if you can stay single then go for it, but if you can't keep it zipped up then you should find a wife.
quote: Sure, that's what I did and God set me up with this awesome babe. ------------------ |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
mack, you have a way with words don't ya? but it's the truth. i'm still single and waiting...i'm not seeking because i can't have that be my goal. i'm going on what JESUS said, "seek ye first the kingdom of GOD and all these things shall be added unto you."...that my two cents anyhow. ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
okay, maybe I'm not exactly the person to ask this question (isn't that right, en972?) I'm pretty girl crazed. anyhow, hmmm... I'd say pray about it. nothing says it's wrong to actively seek a chick. (like dating services? or just keeping an eye out?) but, again, just pray and see what God wants you to do. Hey, nobody said God can't show you the girl through a dating service. ------------------ |
Mack Administrator Posts: 2779 From: Registered: 01-20-2001 |
quote: Maybe I should do a free Bible translation; James Chapter 1: 1-4; Family, whenever your knocked down or beaten up by life be grateful and happy. When your faith is tested you have an oppertunity to grow. So let it grow big! Because when your endurance is full you'll be tough as nails and ready to take on any trial. ------------------ |
Skynes Member Posts: 202 From: Belfast, N Ireland Registered: 01-18-2004 |
I would love to see a bible translation like that... anyway on topic: I waited and prayed and God 'coincidentally' set me up with someone |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i just just joking about the way your worded it, i kinda like it like that. of course, i'm the guy that needs it blunt and simple. anywho. ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia |
en972 Member Posts: 562 From: NOT TELLING! Registered: 08-27-2004 |
hey...the Mack New Testement Bible...I like it... ------------------ |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i like your signature en9whatever(memory malfuctioning). i read it on thinkgeek somewhere...think a calender they had for sale ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia |
goop2 Member Posts: 1059 From: Registered: 06-30-2004 |
I was sitting outside once and a girl just fell ontop of me... well not realy... actualy she was riding down the road and stopped to talk.She had an English accent... I didnt see her agian for almost a year, but she came back down here to come to church one night. A few weeks later she came down after church and asked if i could go down to her house. I have no clue where this is going. I wont get my hopes up cause im 14 and alot can happen in 7 years you know. But I think she likes me so Im not realy worried about it. :P Conclusion? If an English girl is riding down the road, RUN LIKE HELL!!!!! ------------------ "Democrats stink" [This message has been edited by Goop2 (edited October 08, 2004).] |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
to her? okay. well, I'm more partial to eastern european... I had a girl fall on me, except it was while playing softball... down her house, huh? be careful man... ------------------ |
crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
i 2 am 14, dont tell any1, hehe. Girls are about 50% of my concern. girls are girls. i dont like it when they play games, i dont like it when theyre boring. i dont like it when theyre so pretty i never get a chance 2 talk 2 them(okay, maybe i do) and i dont like it when girls dont care about how they look. i dont like it when girls think they rule the world. i dont like it when guys treat girls like crap. I DO LIKE TALKING TO AN HONEST, FUNNY, VERY PRETTY GIRL! it will all fall into place. i think if ur life is in line (i.e. physically fit, socially aware, polite, have a job/responsible) girls will just fall into ur life. if u seek 2 hard u will nevr see what u r looking 4. i guess. sorta. somebody help me. im so lost in this world. JK.HEHE. ------------------ |
cheybea Member Posts: 40 From: Registered: 10-03-2004 |
I'm single and looking/waiting/sometimes not looking/sometimes not caring/ until I bump into my "special someone". Theres nothing wrong with searching, but don't search too hard..you may pass him/her by without even knowing. And also, for those of you who are searching, be careful where you look and guard your heart. [and also keep in mind that God has a plan for your life...so theres no need to worry if you'll ever meet him/her...just keep your eyes on him...cause HE knows the plans HE has for you] - chels ------------------ [This message has been edited by cheybea (edited October 08, 2004).] |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
sometimes the "perfect" girl isn't somebody who fits your ideals perfectly, but your ideals meet who she is. a little random fact. semi-intended for crazyishone. just a little thing from my experience. I'm not really searching... I kinda found somebody.. but... *sniff*.. I'm just a friend... lol. ------------------ |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i agree with chels. God has things planned out, and His plans ALWAYS come through. . from personal experience, i understand the garth brooks song, "unanswered prayers". it talks about how he prayed and prayed that this girl would be the one, and she wasn't. but then he got hooked up with the love of his life, so he's thanking God for unanswered prayers. not that i've gotten hooked up, but i'm thankful God didn't hook me up with some girls i wanted hooked up with...anywho. ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia www.persecution.com - Voice of the Martyrs |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
of course...unanswered usually means He said no, in that specific scenario anyway ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia www.persecution.com - Voice of the Martyrs |
crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
fortunately, arch, ur right. i was just exagerating a point that if you worry too much and look too hard, you will find yourslef either confused or depressed. i wasnt trying to be shallow. ------------------ |
Wacko4X Member Posts: 92 From: Bellvue, WA, USA Registered: 08-21-2002 |
Just my little tidbit: To find the right kind of girl, Your gonna have to be the right kind of guy. |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
I wasn't saying your shallow or anything... wow. Wacko.. that was... profound... ------------------ |
Wacko4X Member Posts: 92 From: Bellvue, WA, USA Registered: 08-21-2002 |
Thanx Arch! |
crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
tru-dat. badup-pshh. ------------------ |
AmazingJas Member Posts: 437 From: Sydney, NSW, AUSTRALIA Registered: 04-03-2003 |
Not to pass the buck, but the answer is different for anyone. It's purely and simply up to whether God wants you to find a mate or not...seek his advice, and ask him to give you a clear spiritual desire to search, or to wait. |
HanClinto Administrator Posts: 1828 From: Indiana Registered: 10-11-2004 |
I don't know how much of a help my experiences might be, but here goes. This time, last year, same exact question in my mind as you have. A lot of prayer, a lot of talking to people, a lot of thinking and going back and forth on the matter. As much as possible, it's good to try and be thankful and content where you're at. You've probably heard it said that if you can't be content single, then you can't be content married. There's a lot of truth to that. The Bible tells us that if we're single, don't seek to be married. If we're married, don't seek to be single. You don't want to take this too far, that doesn't mean that you'll ignore Ms. Right if she comes along, but you're not going to depend on that for satisfaction. The end of Phillipians (chapter 4 I believe), talks a bit about being content in all situations. In a sermon series I once heard (and you may have heard it before also), the speaker instructed singles to "fix your eyes on Jesus, and run straight ahead as fast as you can. After you get up to speed, start looking around and seeing who's keeping pace with you. Then wave at 'em." I spent a large part of my single life very discontent, but I'm so thankful for the last couple years of my single life, where I was incredibly free and able to do anything God wanted me to do. I joined a missions group and volunteered a lot of my time into something worthwhile. I lived on a shoestring, crammed in a house with a bunch of other guys doing the same thing I was doing. It's so *freeing*, it's amazing to spend that kind of time with God. When you're married, you're no longer able to skip dinner and spend 2 hours pouring over Ephesians. You can't just wake up on a Saturday and go on a 6 hour prayer walk by yourself. That kind of spontaniety just doesn't come in marriage. Long story short, last December, God surprised me with a girlfriend out of an old friend from college. 7 months later, we were married. I am so blessed to have her as a friend, wife, and fellow pursuer of Christ. So all that to say, keep on running, friend! I had a tough time with this, and God has proven faithful to me. God has your best in His plan, and all things work together for the good of those that love Him. a brother in Christ, [This message has been edited by HanClinto (edited October 18, 2004).] |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
sounds like good advice to me ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia www.persecution.com - Voice of the Martyrs |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i have a date friday. somewhat interesting story. my cousin's g/f introduced me to her cousin whose name is jessica two sundays ago. i prayed about it(i always pray before doing anything when it comes to women), and then thursday i called twice but had the wrong number, friday i called after getting the right number and no one was there. sunday night she calls after my friend gave her my number. i think sunday night at church she got saved, but i missed sunday night . i made it sunday morning, but i miss the service like 2 people get saved at! anywho...later. ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia www.persecution.com - Voice of the Martyrs |