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Freq47 Member Posts: 39 From: Registered: 01-20-2001 |
Ok, krylar you was right, focus has certainly changed now I am proud parent of my beautiful daughter Anyssa. I hope to return to programming soon, but right now my mind is blown. I have started this topic for all those clueless dad's like my self to understand parenting from the day that you bring you precious child home, till the time you say good bye. Lets go at it dad's and any mom advice is greatfully appreciated. We are for the most part clueless, and we need to know what you wive's want.  so off we go on the newest adventure... thank you for the participation. |
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Freq47 Member Posts: 39 From: Registered: 01-20-2001 |
Ok, I would like to introduce myself. My name is Brian, I am 22 and a dad for the first time. I have been married for 21/2 years to the day when my daughter was born. I will avoid bragging so I don't take up all the CCN space . Anyhow. I have read lots of things on parenting, I have worked with teenagers, I have a few friends who have had children recently. I thought I had it all together. Boy was I wrong. Who would of known that a baby could be so squirmy and I would be soooo slow. So during these first few months whats a dad suppose to do. I try to help with the baby, changing the diapers and feeding. But mom doesn't like how I do it. Is this normal. I am banned for life on doing the the little small things that help me feel like a parent. Thats how I will begin, also I think it should be known that I work 2 jobs. freq47 |
Krylar Administrator Posts: 502 From: MD, USA Registered: 03-05-2001 |
Welcome back, Freq! It's great to see ya...and a BIG 'OL CONGRATS to you again  I think the toughest thing for me was(is) recognizing that my child is just that...a child. It's so easy to assume that he has the rational skills of an adult that I find myself getting frustrated over issues that he can't yet fathom. So, when I recognize I'm doing this, I take a step back and just look at him; get it in my head that he's still a child; then I move forward in a more compassionate way. It's not easy to be a parent. There's no instruction book that comes with *your* child. But when you look in your little-ones eyes, just knowing that God has provided YOU with this gift makes every moment a blessing. There is something about having a child and seeing yourself in that child that both excites you and humbles you. I used to believe, and in some ways I still believe, that unless you've been a parent it's difficult to imagine what God must go through when He sees us doing things that are dangerous and wrong. I'm not saying that non-parents can't imagine it, but there is some undescribable about how a parent feels about a child. Being a parent gives one the slightest glimpse of understanding why Jesus was willing to give His life for us even though we didn't deserve it...we're *His* children. Best wishes! -Krylar ------------------ |
