Lazarus Member Posts: 1668 From: USA Registered: 06-06-2006 |
*Deleted* Perhaps that is true, Jetspice. Maybe I am looking at this the wrong way. But I don't think so right now. That verse about honoring and obeying your parents - I don't have an answer for. It's hard enough for me to go through every day here without having the Internet. I'm a lonely kid. I don't get to be around very many people besides my family. Talking to members on here is the only way. I hope I don't sound pathetic or anything here. I'm just not willing to do what you suggested when my parents treat me like this. whatever... Lazarus [This message has been edited by Lazarus (edited October 02, 2006).] |
buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
well, you could always get her interested in the pc at a young age, you know when you're young you're real impressionable... j/k. whoa, it sounds like it sucks. i have a friend whose parents are a lot like yours. a lot. very strict about the pc and such. they don't give spankings, but they do take stuff away (they have taken away all his Xbox games except for one because he hid it where they cant find it) and the pcs have passwords so he cant get on them. at all. he can't get them to take him anywhere. i once tried to get him to come over to my house and it was like trying to get somebody out of prison. i know how you mean about your siblings fighting a lot. my parents are strict about who i talk to on the internet, too. can't go on IRC. at all. and i am not supposed to talk to anyone on MSN I don't know. they have made one or 2 exceptions. but thats like CPU and Lava. anybody else (even here on CCN) they're like, "no!!! they're child kidnapmolesterators!!! AAAAAH!!". of course, one time my sister was talking to an 18yearold from Iraq... but that still doesn't mean they should freak out at me. whoa, i kind of hijacked your thread. i hope it gets better at your house. you really should tell your parents how you feel. maybe it would be better to write them like a short letter instead. then make sure they read it. its sometimes easier that way. don't be upset when you write it tho. if that screws up, however, remember im not liable for any loss of life or limb (j/k lol =D) ------------------ |
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Lazarus Member Posts: 1668 From: USA Registered: 06-06-2006 |
Tell my parents how I feel? I would laugh very loudly(or cry), but I'd probably get in trouble for making noise.. Yeah Buddboy, that's definitely a bad idea. I almost did that a couple times but luckily decided not to at the last minute. You'd understand why if you were here...
quote: Do they love each other anyway? Or are they like enemies, like mine? Lazarus |
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buddboy Member Posts: 2220 From: New Albany, Indiana, U.S. Registered: 10-08-2004 |
i said you could write a letter. yeah, they still love each other. not trying to make your problem sound lesser, sheesh. just trying to help. ------------------ |
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Lazarus Member Posts: 1668 From: USA Registered: 06-06-2006 |
Ah, I know. Not trying to jump on you or anything. And I meant writing a letter would be a bad idea too. Lazarus |
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Lava Member Posts: 1905 From: Registered: 01-26-2005 |
I don't know what to say, because I know with these situations I can make it (like Buddboy said), look trival. So all I can say is, I hear what you're saying and I know what you feel  ------------------ |
Faith_Warrior Member Posts: 490 From: So.Cal. Registered: 09-05-2006 |
quote:...and then someday you may thank them for it. I became a Christian at the age of 12, against my parents wishes. You think you have it bad?  But you'll understand someday. |
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CheeseStorm Member Posts: 521 From: Registered: 11-28-2004 |
A friend of mine's family comp was always in the living room, and his dad could sit at the kitchen table with a pair of binoculars to see what was happening on the screen.  You seem to really enjoy writing - I lol'd a bunch at your Travails and Terror (if I get killed off, it'd better be like Boromir from LOTR I don't know if you do any game programming, but making goofy little minigames is always fun. If your parents are suspicious and always spying on your computer activity, they could be pretty surprised when you invite them over to check something out. Even if your creation doesn't blow them away, you can have a bit of fun doing stuff that isn't going to land you in an interrogation cell. (As long as your game isn't called Chuck Norris Murderfest III or anything) Walks or bike rides are good chill-out methods too. If the "Uh, I'm going to slip out mysteriously for about an hour, see ya," thing doesn't go over too well, maybe even invite them to come along. I definitely miss my family bike rides from way back, although just the idea might sound insane in your situation. Thinking in terms of "How many years left of this crap?" sometimes seems like the cold hard truth, but the future isn't real. Taking things one day at a time is the only way. And if your day has been crap, then take it one minute at a time. Planning out a miraculous escape to China will just drive you even more nuts. I guess all there is to say (despite the hugeness of this post, sorry) is that if you focus on something you enjoy, you'll get results and time will fly by. I know it sounds like corny easy-for-you-to-say advice a Grade 5 would get from their teacher. Just throwing ideas out there, I'm betting you've already shot a few down before getting to this sentence. If you're pretty much chained to the house, I really recommend some kind of art like writing, drawing, whatever. Better submit this post before I see how cheesy it really is. |
Realm Master Member Posts: 1971 From: USA Registered: 05-15-2005 |
First off I have to say this: YOU HAVE 8 BROTHERS AND SISTERS!?!?!?!?!?!? WHAT THE!?!?! Now ill post and read the rest, then edit this, K? Holy crap dude, you've got the family from hell. (no offense) Well, the Army *should* have straighted your bro out, but if not... the Army needs work. I dunno. I'm the oldest and I hate to think this is what my younger brothers think of me. Well... I can't belive it. Your parents seem like they would be "nice" people, considering the bible studies and nursing homes, but talk about overstrictness. Our family meals, I lean back, interrupt, reach across the table and more. I can't imagine otherwise. My parents also trust me on the internet, though i have had some tough times with the internet. My parents are just concerned that my constant gravitationality towards guns is because of vid. Games (planning to Join Marines, PLANNING, not for sure. Go to Marines, work butt of for 6 months, be Marine for 4 years, be a "civiaian" for 4 years int the reserves, then be done. Get scholarship, live life. But I am really attracted to weaponry for a kind of unexplainable reason) But my parents do trust me. Hmm... I can't really think of any advice, probably 'cause your a year older than I am (or at least a few months) and.. I just cant. Just don't try and kidnap your little sister to take her away from your way-overbearing family. Life's a battle, there are alwasy tough parts, its just everyone dosn't have the tough parts in the same places or at the same times. Grin and bear it for 3 more years, then get the crap outa there, thats all I can say. I find it majorly disturbing that your parents are taht overbearing... and that they give spankings to anyone over the age of 9. As for your sisters... I got nuthin' Dont have any sisters.
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crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
Lazarus, I'm about to give you advice you can look at in two ways. Some would say its horrible advice because it is somewhat immoral, but it may be just what you need. Quite honestly you need to find a way to "stick it to the man". Any sense of victory is something you can cling to. Right now you feel helpless, and I think you really need to have that "sticking it to the man" experience. Outward rebellion will just make life worse, so you'll have to be smart about it. Sounds like you have plenty of time to think, so try to come up with something that fits what I'm talking about. Also don't forget you have an outlet here! my aim sn: moffitt the 3rd If your parents read this, just let them know my opinions are different from others in this community. (So they don't think every member is turning you against them. surely they won't realize they did that for themselves.) ------------------ |
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Faith_Warrior Member Posts: 490 From: So.Cal. Registered: 09-05-2006 |
Once you loose/break your parents trust, it can take a very long time to earn it back again… if ever, fully. |
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Lazarus Member Posts: 1668 From: USA Registered: 06-06-2006 |
Well, thanks guys. Your suggestions are greatly appreciated. Cheese, glad you like the Travails and Terror story How did that guy Boromir die in LOTR(I've never seen the movies or read the books because... well you know)Heh, Chuck Norris Murderfest III That would be... interesting if I showed a game like that to them .My family used to take bike rides all the time on Saturday. Never anymore. Either they're asleep, having biblestudies, or off somewhere else on Saturday. I do run and ride my bike by myself in the summer though. quote: Haven't gotten in trouble yet. I might if I was caught, might not. You never know around here whether Dad'll blow up at you or ignore the whole thing. Luckily I do have a couple hobbies to concentrate on. Crazyishone, my aim sn is Lazarus 100th RM posted quote: None taken .quote: He's still in actually. quote: Actually, they give spankings to anyone Under the age of 14. As soon as we're born, if we're bad, we're spanked. Faithwarrior: how can you lose your parents trust when you never had it?
quote: Well like I said, comparing my situation to even worse ones doesn't help much, sorry. Now I wonder who won the CCN competition... Lazarus |
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CheeseStorm Member Posts: 521 From: Registered: 11-28-2004 |
quote: He's fighting like twenty baddies to save his crew, he gets shot with two million arrows, keeps fighting, gets shot up a bunch more, fights a bit more, finally kicks the bucket with epic music and stuff. You know, heroic death and all that. |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
it's pretty much the most bad@$$ way to die. ever. ------------------ |
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Lazarus Member Posts: 1668 From: USA Registered: 06-06-2006 |
Sounds like the way you died, Arch. Well actually you and a lot of othe r people... Lazarus |
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JeTSpice Member Posts: 433 From: La Crosse, Wisconsin, USA Registered: 06-10-2006 |
*deleted* The Bible's says this: honor your mother and father. Honor the Lord and it will go well with you. This is what you are to do: Erase from your computer everything that your parents have not allowed. Do not visit any internet sites that your parents have not approved of. After some time, when you have done these things and you feel ready, go to your parents and ask them what you can do to earn their trust. In this way will you be rid of hypocracy in your own life and then you can help your brothers to become righteous. And there will be peace in your life. -Jeff Spicer [This message has been edited by JeTSpice (edited October 02, 2006).] [This message has been edited by JeTSpice (edited October 04, 2006).] |
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Faith_Warrior Member Posts: 490 From: So.Cal. Registered: 09-05-2006 |
quote:You did, but it sounds like you lost it along the way and are looking for even more ways to compound the problem. If you are rebellious now, and looking for a way to "stick it to the man" even more, than it's likely you have already been on this path for some time.
quote:Ok fair enough, you don't want to hear my problems, I hardly ever put them out for others to read anyway. But I'll say this, if you really think you have it so bad (which you really don't) than spend some time in Mexico helping at an orphanage where the kids were rescued from parents that beat their kids severely and in some cases prostituted them. In Asia and other parts of the world the child slave trade is horrendous. This is a sick, sick world we live in and getting sicker by the day, as I said you may understand some day, but more like how good you really have it. [This message has been edited by Faith_Warrior (edited October 02, 2006).] |
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JeTSpice Member Posts: 433 From: La Crosse, Wisconsin, USA Registered: 06-10-2006 |
Lazarus, I love you, bro. I've never met you, but my heart goes out to you. I tell you these things so that you're right with God. He is the perfect Father, and He is our protector. He knows we'll make mistakes and leave doors open to Satan. His mercy is great, but he responds to our obedience. I encourage you to do what is right. You don't have to talk to your parents about it--that's just a suggestion, but honoring your parents is what the Word says. My heart yearns for the Peace that surpasses understanding to come upon you. My wife and I will pray for you very much. It's no fun to be in turmoil, especially not knowing what to do, and with nowhere to turn. I know the feeling, and I pray the Lord, our Comforter, will come upon you. Even though your parents might not be in the right, by bending your knee to their will, you are doing what the Father says. God is the final authority, not our parents. But God says "Honor your parents." So we do it for Him, and we do so fully with joyful hearts. God says that "obedience commands a blessing." When you make the choice to honor your parents, it commands that a blessing come to you. Do so joyfully, with the expectation of all the blessings that come in Christ. Your life will change. God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory. He will be your defender and high tower. He will cause the fear of the Lord to fall. He lifts up your head. He scatters your enemies. He puts love and power in your heart. I hope this helps you. God bless you, and my wife and I will pray for you. In Jesus, P.S. And no, you don't sound pathetic or anything like that. You sound like you need help. [This message has been edited by JeTSpice (edited October 02, 2006).] |
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Lazarus Member Posts: 1668 From: USA Registered: 06-06-2006 |
Thank you. |
). It's fun to make art and even better when you can see the finished product. Could even make a little money, although I hear it's almost impossible to make a living as an artist.