WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Hey not sure if this has ever happened to any of you, but i meet this girl on campus, i liked her however she had a b/f at the time, so we became good friends. It has came to a point where we treat and act like we are bro and sis. Heck thats even what we call each other. Well things are not going good for her right now. She is having a hard time with classes, and her grades are not to good. She also has some metal problems, and I'm afraid she is becoming unstable. Also her b/f keeps talking about breaking up with her, and it really gets to her. I love my sis, and don't want to see anything happen to her. Do you know of anybody, I could have her talk to, or got any advice. Thankx ------------------ |
HanClinto Administrator Posts: 1828 From: Indiana Registered: 10-11-2004 |
Are there counselors at your college? There were 2 or 3 Christian counselors on staff at the college that I went to, and they were available free of charge. Otherwise, how available are your pastor/elders for counseling? In Christ, |
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Yes we have counselors, but not sure if they are Christian or not. She plans on talking to one today, however she is afraid that they will end up telling her parents. The last time she talked to one, they told her parents even though they said they wouldn't. As far as pastor/elders I have my g-ma and g-pa. I doubt she would talk to them. Also they don't go to church. A pastor, well i know its sad but being a newbie at work, i get the crappy hours, thus when ever there is a church service I am stuck at work, or sleeping because I just got out and have to come back in in a few hours ------------------ |
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HanClinto Administrator Posts: 1828 From: Indiana Registered: 10-11-2004 |
If you don't have a church that you call home, a friend's pastor is a good place to start. Pastors don't require that you attend their church to help a person. Sorry I don't have any more advice for you -- I'm praying for you though In Christ, |
CapnStank Member Posts: 214 From: Sask, Canada Registered: 12-16-2004 |
Hmmmm not to sound like an *** in this or anything but... Its best not to get too involved in people's matters. You step in, then you **** up then its your fault. Sure, you were just trying to help but now you're seen as the *** in it all. She's probably very unstable and we'll hear of the next shooting soon too! Just a little reassurance for ya ------------------ |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i'll pray for you/her as well woody. if her b/f talks(and thinks) about breaking up with her and all that because she's going through a really hard time then she needs to dump him. if somebody won't be there in the hard times...or at least try to be there for you, they don't really care about you. ------------------ www.gfa.org - Gospel for Asia www.persecution.com - Voice of the Martyrs |
crazyishone Member Posts: 1685 From: Registered: 08-25-2004 |
i agree with benny and uh, p.s.what im about to say assumes u still want to date this girl.... if her b/f breaks up with her, it would not be right of u to use that as an opportunity to swoop in and woo her. be a FRIEND. girls , i have found, are so different in a way that i think half the time they'd rather have a good friend than a boyfriend. but this is just my 2 cents and im only a freshman in highschool, so do with my opinion what u will. ------------------ |
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Yes they did end up breaking up a few times. And I would never swoop in thats not my style. Also I can't think of her as anything other than a sis, so its not a problem. Oh and things seem to be looking good for the both of us, minus the failing of 2 class's. And thankx for the help |
