WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Hey what up? I just want to thank all of ya for your help 1st. I have a hard time talking to people at my church because almost no one is safe to talk to. Well ok I have been updating all of ya about my girlfriend problems. We are just friends now, I guess. For about at week she was pissed at me, and still won't tell me why. Now it seems like she never wants to talk, yet she seems to get mad if I don't talk to her. Plus she says I'm mean all the time. I have no idea why. I'm just so confused, hurt, and have no idea what to do. I just want to confess right now, that me and her did somethings I'm not to proud of. No we didn't have sex or anything like that, but still they where things I wish I had never of done, and don't ever plan on doing again. I got one more lil thing to ask for, could ya pray for me? I have a black spot on my eye, which could become cancer, but morethen likely is not, also I might have low blood sugar, but I can't get in to get it tested. Thankx Peace, |
ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
quote: man, most non-cool. That really sucks. Church should never be like that. Hey, man, You got my prayers anytime for anything. ------------------ |
AmazingJas Member Posts: 437 From: Sydney, NSW, AUSTRALIA Registered: 04-03-2003 |
Well if you don't fit in the church that you are going to, maybe think about looking for another one? I went to a church for about 7 years and didn't find it very stimulating at all. Some upheaval in the church made me and my wife start to look elsewhere and we found an awesome spirit filled church that is a joy to attend. Well it worked for us anyways, though sometimes I'm sure we are called to help build up struggling churches, but then sometimes it's time to move on. Just don't entertain thoughts that you can survive without church, that leads down the path to straying from God. It's good that you are looking for prayer to fix your problems, I've just sent one up for ya! |
Torial Member Posts: 73 From: Cedar Rapids, Ia, USA Registered: 07-23-2002 |
quote: Yeah, don't try to survive w/o church. I'd also encourage you to find someone to disciple you. Personally, that is the time when I've grown the most in my Christian walk, plus, as the relationship develops, you get the benefit of a friendship with someone with more experience and wiser (if they are discipling, this should be the case!), who can help you with particulars of your situation. Seriously, try to find an older man who'd be willing to disciple you, or ask your pastor. Depending on the kind of church, it may be best to find a better one, where you can grow. At this point, you need the fellowship and guidance provided by a good church, and if you aren't getting it, you probably should seek it out elsewhere. Btw, if you don't feel like you can go to another church, then go ahead and ask the Lord to bring someone to mind whom you could ask from your current church. Sometimes a reserved person is only introverted -- so they may seem standoffish but it could be because they are intimidated by some social contexts. I'm not trying to heap stuff on you, but if you've done some stuff w/ her that you regret, tell her that. And if it was wrong or lustful(e.g. sinful), I'd suggest that you ask her forgiveness. As brothers and sisters in Christ, we should not harm or defraud one another (something from a Thessalonian book comes to mind.. but can't remember exactly). She may not be at the point where she sees the point of regretting or apologizing, but you can know that you tried to make things right. My 2 cents, but hope they help.. I'm sorry to hear about the physical stuff, I just sent up a prayer. No fun at all... please keep us updated on how things turn out. Sean
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Well I have told her how i feel and that it was bad and stuff, but she doesn't care and doesn't think it was that bad. So yea, I'm still trying to be friends wit her, but its so hard. As for church I can talk to the kids my age, but most of them will go off and tell someone what I said. As for adults, I just don't feel right. Then all the college kids, i don't trust. Well thats my update for now. Peace |
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ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
hmm, that's sad when someone can't be trusted. still got my prayers, homie. ------------------ |
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Torial Member Posts: 73 From: Cedar Rapids, Ia, USA Registered: 07-23-2002 |
quote: Hi Woody, Sean ------------------ |
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Um, thats sounds good, but 1st I would like to get a lil info on this person if ya wouldn't mind. Also a lil update. The 2nd grader that likes me and hangs all over me, tried reaching in my pockets today and then she started crying when I told her she didn't need a b/f and got all pissed at me. |
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ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
whoa... 2nd grader? I thought she was a jr.higher. wow... um... don't really know what to say. ------------------ |
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Torial Member Posts: 73 From: Cedar Rapids, Ia, USA Registered: 07-23-2002 |
quote: Hi woody, I haven't talked w/ him about this, and being caution makes sense(given the era of predators online). If you want additional information, I can try to answer all your questions. Likewise, I'll need to talk w/ him and see if he's willing to do so. Perhaps one question though, I should clarify, is approximately how old are you?(I don't need to know exactly) Like ArchAngel, I was thinking Jr. High / High School, but 2nd grader being interested in you makes me wonder if you are younger. This is not a bad thing (what's wrong w/ being young?, although if that is the case, it is truly saddening how messed up the world is that makes life hard for children), but I would suggest a different route [e.g. pleading with family for help / wisdom / protection]. My 2 cents, ------------------ |
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Torial Member Posts: 73 From: Cedar Rapids, Ia, USA Registered: 07-23-2002 |
Btw, if you are on the younger end of the spectrum, I'd suggest avoiding being b/f w/ girls for a while. Life will be simpler. ------------------ |
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Dogg, I'm 17 and in 12th grade. I don't like the girls as anything more then friends. So where does that guy live. I have always had to deal wit kids getting crushes on me, but never as much as the 6th grader has. Then along wit church things are getting kind hard, but i need some sleep so i'll get going |
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Torial Member Posts: 73 From: Cedar Rapids, Ia, USA Registered: 07-23-2002 |
Hi Woody, Just wanted to let you know that I haven't forgotten about ya, I'm trying to contact Blair but so far haven't heard from him. Sean ------------------ |
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Torial Member Posts: 73 From: Cedar Rapids, Ia, USA Registered: 07-23-2002 |
Hi Woody, I've not heard back from Blair, but I know he's been pulling some long weeks (e.g. 100+hrs) to make ends meet. How are things going? How about the medical stuff? Sean ------------------ |
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Well things are going ok. We got new youth group leaders. The 6th grader i'm just trying to be friends wit her, and my youth group leader told me I should bring he to church. What's your guys's advice about that? oh what medical stuff? Thankx for your help |
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Christian Member Posts: 400 From: Australia Registered: 09-15-2002 |
If you're a Christian then the Bible says not to get involved romantically with people who do not share your faith. Either way, asking her to come to church is a good thing. You said you had a problem with your eye. |
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WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Well things are getting better. As for my eye we are not sure whats wrong but it looks like I might have cancer. Oh I have been talking to a friend who is christian and has some problems in her life. I'm not sure what thay are because she does not want to talk about them. I was just hoping you could pray for her for me. Thankx |
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ArchAngel Member Posts: 3450 From: SV, CA, USA Registered: 01-29-2002 |
In my prayers, homie ------------------ |
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AtheistAdmirer Member Posts: 13 From: Registered: 11-20-2003 |
i cant pray for you, but ill be glad to provide you with an ear (and a shoulder, if necessary), my emails in my profile.  hit me up anytime, also, a church change may be in order! I agree with those guys, churches ought to be welcoming and comforting, otherwise I dont see how they are to be beneficial.------------------ |
silicon_chippy Member Posts: 208 From: Scotland Registered: 10-26-2002 |
Woody as I said before "I will pray for you", keep your chin up. It is probably not Cancer. You will know that it is highly unlikely that you have the big C. If you need anything I am here Take care Chris PS-Welcome aboard__AtheistAdmirer ------------------ |
bennythebear Member Posts: 1225 From: kentucky,usa Registered: 12-13-2003 |
i feel for ya. i've had trouble with a women before, seems that's all i ever have when i get romanticly involved with them, but i fall for the wrong ones. and whoever it was that was talking about the introverted people usually being good ones to talk to, he's giving some good advice. i'm a preacher and i'm one of the most shy people you'll know, i said the preacher part because you wouldn't think a preacher would have problems talking to people. i'll pray for ya man, just remember that GOD will never leave ya, and never forsake ya, and HIS mercy endures forever. just think about king David who commited adultery, then had the woman's husband sent out in a bad spot in battle to be killed, and i aint far from king david, GOD's love and mercy is the only way in. hope this helped some, or at least didn't hurt. |
