WOODY Member Posts: 42 From: Mt. Pleasant, michigan, USA Registered: 10-22-2002 |
Hey, i need some help. I have thought bout killing my self before, i used to be in a depression, and now i just got hurt really bad. I meet this girl at a youth group thing and we started going out. Well she dumped me 2 days later over the net cause she only wanted to know what is was like to have a boyfriend!!! Word, |
InsanePoet Member Posts: 638 From: Vermont, USA Registered: 03-12-2003 |
Psalms 46:1-5 God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change And though the mountains slip into the heart of the sea; Though its waters roar {and} foam, Though the mountains quake at its swelling pride. I will pray for you.
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Mack Administrator Posts: 2779 From: Registered: 01-20-2001 |
That really sucks man  She might want to still causually date with you and not really go for a relationship thing just yet. It's good to start things slow and work into them over time, just hanging out with each other and getting to know each other, maybe she's interested in that? |
Angel Member Posts: 699 From: The Blissful State Of Me? Registered: 05-21-2001 |
Well I can speak from expearance here. I went through one girl after the other online and off. Moved in with some and traveled great distances for other. Im also a lunitic. I used to cut my hands open and write things in blood all over my body. Crazy stuff and I could go on and on but lets cut to the point. God will give you the right person when it is the right time. You may not know it but you could be the one in the way of that. God isnt going to put a wanderful person in your life if you arnt ready for that person. I wasnt ready for my wife. If I would have met her years before she would have ran away from me. I was considerd a nightmare and my friends all thought the same and said my life was hell. Im still ruff around the edges but I am deffenetly ready to be married now and to have my own kid. I just needed to grow up a bit. Another point dont get your hopes all high and perfect with every girl that comes along. 2 days is no way to figure out how wanderful or evil someone is. This stuff takes time. Trust me cuz I was married within five months of meeting my wife online. We both took a lot of flack for it and we both didnt know enough about eachother. That lead to a lot of fights and I thank God we made it through all of them. Even though now I have a lot of holes in my walls and other things. Still now I never cut myself, keep my cool, my wife is crazy about me, and I wish I would have waited and never daited before I was 19. God has his plan mate, you just need to wait and take your time with people. From the look of your letter I would guess your young. If it takes till your 29 who cares. Its not worth all the heart ake and suffering. What do you do while waiting? Prepair for that wanderful girl. She is a gift to you and you to her. Dont you think you should be wanderful too? That means cleaning up your life and additude and imbracing God. No girl is going to want to be with a mean, self obsorbed, me me me person who lacks the understanding that she has needs and wants as well. Anyways hope you get your head on strait and cool it with the self distruction. I still fight with it every day but I tell you the hope that God gave me makes it much easyer to cope with. ~Angel~ |
c h i e f y Member Posts: 415 From: Surrey, United Kingdom Registered: 03-07-2002 |
Mack's right the more you show her you're head over heels for her, the LESS she's interested if you show you're not interested SHE WILL BE hence the saying and red sky at night, shepherds delight and all these things, my Dad said to me and one day, I said 'em all to him, may he RIP ------------------ from your old mate |
D-SIPL Moderator Posts: 1345 From: Maesteg, Wales Registered: 07-21-2001 |
Hey Woody! Cheer up mate, i've had several experiences of this happening. And i totally agree with cheify... as soon as you show lots of interest, they think they've got it easy, and you'll be the one doing all the chasing. If you look like your not interested, or show a little interest but then go cold again, they'll chase you like mad, and the balls in your court! Trust me it works... anyways, God's got a perfect partner for you, so take it easy, i know it's hard, but trust God and you won't be dissapointed. I have a lovely girlfriend and i love her to bits. I'm glad i waited a while, just wish i didn't go through all the heart ache i did before to get there. I've lost a baby when i was 16, etc etc. And it never should have happened if i was in Gods perfect will. He knows whats best. Take care mate! --D-SIPL |
but easier said than done